My Public Diary (Lovely Gupta)

 The Power of Habit (Summary)  PROLOGUE: -Keystone habit. Some habits, in other words, matter more than others in remaking businesses and lives. These are "keystone habits" and they can influence how people work, eat, play, live, spend, and communicate. Keystone habits start a process that, over time, transforms everything. Keystone habits say that success doesn't depend on getting every single thing right, but instead relies on identifying a few key priorities and fashioning them into powerful levers. Studies have documented that families who habitually eat dinner together seem to raise children with better homework skill, higher grades, greater emotional control, and more confidence. Making your bed every morning is correlated with better productivity, a great sense of well-being, and stronger skills at sticking with a budget. It's not that a family meal or a tidy bed causes better grades or less frivolous spending. But somehow those in

 Most People’s Software You always hear facts about human development and how so much of who you become is determined by your experiences during your formative years. A newborn’s brain is a malleable ball of hardware clay, and its job upon being born is to quickly learn about whatever environment it’s been born into and start shaping itself into the optimal tool for survival in those circumstances. That’s why it’s so easy for young children to learn new skills. As people age, the clay begins to harden and it becomes more difficult to change the way the brain operates. My grandmother has been using a computer as long as I have, but I use mine comfortably and easily because my malleable childhood brain easily wrapped itself around basic computer skills, while she has the same face on when she uses her computer that my tortoise does when I put him on top of a glass table and he thinks he’s inexplicably hovering two feet above the ground. She’ll use a computer when she needs to, but it’s n

 Dealing with Addictions/Bad Habits "It isn't that you are trying to quit addiction/bad habit. It's not the right way to think about it. The right way to think about it is that you are trying to figure out how to have a better life and so you have to figure out , well I would say, do the future authoring program and keep your addiction/bad habit in mind and think. So in the part of the future authoring program it asks you a bunch of questions about what your life could be like in three to five years if you took care of yourself like you were someone that you cared for and then it asks you questions about your friends and your family and your career and your time outside of your work and your health and, you know, the important dimensions of life and it asks you to spend 20 minutes writting about how good your life could be in three to five years if you got your act together and did what was good for you and then it asked you to write about the hell you could be in if you d

 The subtle art of not giving a f*ck (Summary) Chapter-1 : -Self improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn't necessarily mean they are the same thing. -All the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time - is actually fixating on what you lack. -The backward law - Wanting positive experience is a negative experience ; accepting negative experience is a positive experience. -Subtlety 1:Not giving a f*ck doesn't mean being Indifferent ; it means being comfortable with being different. -Subtlety 2:To not give a f*ck about adversity you must first give a f*ck about something more important than adversity. -Subtlety 3:Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a f*ck about. Chapter-2: -Whatever your problems are, the concept is the same: solve problems ;be happy. Unfortunately many people f*ck things up in at least one of the two ways: 1)Denial:- They deny reality 2)Victim mentality:- Blame others and outsid

  The cockroach theory for self development. At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but …it landed on another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant. Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their h

 Here's why your attitude is more important than your intelligence Psychologist Carol Dweck has found that your attitude is a better predictor of your success than your IQ. When it comes to success, it’s easy to think that people blessed with brains are inevitably going to leave the rest of us in the dust. But new research from Stanford University will change your mind (and your attitude). Psychologist Carol Dweck has spent her entire career studying attitude and performance, and her latest study shows that your attitude is a better predictor of your success than your IQ. Dweck found that people’s core attitudes fall into one of two categories: a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. With a fixed mindset, you believe you are who you are and you cannot change. This creates problems when you’re challenged because anything that appears to be more than you can handle is bound to make you feel hopeless and overwhelmed. People with a growth mindset believe that they can improve with effort.